Remembering People Who Have Walked On
This is a tough one to write about, as I have lost a few people close to me in recent months. It seems like the toughest part about it is not knowing what to do exactly. Do I make a grand gesture such as a charity or monument in my loved one’s name? Or do I press on unfaltering in my own life, barely pausing for a respectful moment? I think there are good cases to be made for both approaches.
Where I’m currently at is this: Imagine you were to suddenly die tomorrow. What would you want the people who care about you to do in reaction? I feel like I would want them to take notice that I was gone, and to remember me fondly (the laughs we shared, the problems conquered, the beers we drank, etc.). But I wouldn’t want them to dwell on my passing or grieve for too long—I would want them to get on with their lives and not fall to pieces over me. So I try to make my reaction at their passing fit that mold.
If you’ve lost someone recently or are about to lose someone, I am sorry and I hope this is somehow helpful. Here endeth the lesson on remembering people who have walked on.
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